Lately, I’ve grown frustrated with social media and the opinions that flood the internet. Everyone seems to think they have the authority to dictate the “ideal family size,” and if you choose a different path, you’re deemed to be disadvantaging your child. I'm tired of seeing constant negativity aimed at those who opt for just one child. It’s time for a mental reset, and stepping away from these platforms is a must.

I have absolutely no regrets about having one child and making the conscious decision to undergo surgery to reinforce that choice. My husband and I have stood firm in our decision for a long time. Yet, despite our confidence, the overwhelming online opinions make me feel guilty. I know beyond a doubt that we made the right choice, and I would choose it again without hesitation. Those feelings of guilt? They will fade as I remind myself to filter out the noise of outsiders.

The stereotypes surrounding only children are not only tiresome; they’re inaccurate. The most prevalent myth is that only children are inherently selfish, unable to share, and often spoiled. The reality is that these traits can exist in children regardless of their sibling status. The internet's idea of only children is overwhelmingly wrong.

He has a big heart and consistently shows kindness to his friends. We’ve had no struggles with sharing; in fact, he eagerly helps and shares with others. We were so proud to hear how big of a help he was this school year and how he was always so kind to his friends. 

There were many factors that led us to decide against having more children. The biggest reason for myself was not wanting to run myself thin and make sure I could be the best version of myself for my son. I am so fortunate to be able to stay home with him, and it was so important to me to be able to enjoy time with him and just to be able to focus on him. Could some say it was selfish of us to not give him a sibling? Sure, they could. So many people have strong feelings on the number of kids you should have and why. The truth is I am tired of letting those thoughts of others make me feel bad about a decision I am confident in.

I feel such a strong sense of gratitude for my little family. I have an amazing husband and the most loving son, and I cherish every moment spent with them. Having one child has allowed us to maintain a strong marriage and be the kind of parents we aspire to be. For us, one child is not just a choice; it’s the best choice.

Let’s be clear: there is no definitive answer to how many people should comprise a family. It’s mind blowing that so many feel the need to voice their opinions on this topic online. I’ve learned to disengage when it all becomes too overwhelming. There will always be someone ready to offer unsolicited opinions, and sometimes the most powerful response is just to let it slide off your back.

Regardless of how big or small your family is, I hope you always feel confident in the family that is yours. Even if there is always the stigma behind "one and done" I will never regret our choice and never forget how blessed I am to have the family I always wanted.

If you have read this far, thank you!